Online Dating: Searching for the One!

Online Dating seems to be very much all part of the dating process these days and why not? Online Dating used to be a taboo thing, however the stigma that once surrounded it as a "desperado" thing to do has now disappeared. 

​People are becoming single at all different ages now and there is a need to keep all options and dating avenues open.  In general it becomes harder to meet people through conventional ways as we get old.  Certainly if I were single I'd be doing it too!

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As I speak with and read for my Clients a few observations have become very apparent to me, which is some ways are very alarming too.  

As two people are chatting to one another and they start to feel a "connection", it's assumed before even meeting that a relationship has already been established and a commitment is in situe.  However, these people have never even met and sometimes they are talking about spending the rest of their lives together.    I do believe it's good to exchange communications before meeting up with someone and establishing why they are dating and what they are hoping to find, as not everyone in the dating game these days is lookign for a long term relationship and I guess nothing much changes there.  HOWEVER, it is important to remember that everything is a fantasy until you actually meet up with someone.  Whilst someone may seem compatible in communications that can also be "fixed" too.  For example, I've heard of conversations going like this

Him: What's your favourite meal?
Her: Roast Dinner
Him: Oh mine too
Him: What's your favourite TV Programme
Her: Any animal documentary 
Him:  Ooooh that's so my favourite too 

These types of conversations make it look like the pair of you have bags of things in common and have found a "match"

People have also asked the other to stop dating other people and coming off of dating sites altogether before a meeting too, because they want that person to be committed to them.  I have a lot of difficulty with people committing to each other before an actual meeting/date.  In fact,  I'd say, don't get too excited until you've met up 3 or 4 times.  People end up feeeling quite hurt and disappointed when they finally do meet that person and they aren't what they thought they were, because they have gotten too carried away

From my own point of view and if it were me doing the online dating, I'd be chatting to lots of different people and going on lots of dates.  A little bit like an interview process.  Until you've actually met up and established that there is a genuine connection and you both want to commitment to each other from there, then it's all a fantasy and you are a free agent. Try to remember that this is a getting to know you process that has stages and phases just like everything else in life.  Above all don't meet up with someone and spend a night in a hotel with them; just because you've been chatting for x amount of weeks/months doesn't mean they are genuine.  Always meet in a public place and trust your gut feeling.  If a situation doesn't feel right, chances are it isn't and then make your excuses to leave.

When I hear that my Clients have "fallen in love" with someone they've never met or have committed themselves to someone they've never met, my alarm bells ring immediately.  I hope that things do work out for them and they don't get hurt.  However, I know invariably they will be back, feeling rather sore and disappointed.  When I've built up a rapport with someone this makes me feel very sad indeed.

May be you're dabbling with online dating right now, why not have a Psychic Reading to take a look at the person or people that you are chatting to, to see what their intentions are or in fact anything to look out for.   Or may be you're ready to commit to someone and have developed feelings and you want to be sure they feel the same way about you too.  Whichever it is a Psychic Reading can help you in your quest for "the one"  A full range of services can be foundhere

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