Online Dating seems to be very much all part of the dating process these days and why not? Online Dating used to be a taboo thing, however the stigma that once surrounded it as a "desperado" thing to do has now disappeared.
People are becoming single at all different ages now and there is a need to keep all options and dating avenues open. In general it becomes harder to meet people through conventional ways as we get old. Certainly if I were single I'd be doing it too!
As I speak with and read for my Clients a few observations have become very apparent to me, which is some ways are very alarming too.
As two people are chatting to one another and they start to feel a "connection", it's assumed before even meeting that a relationship has already been established and a commitment is in situe. However, these people have never even met and sometimes they are talking about spending the rest of their lives together. I do believe it's good to exchange communications before meeting up with someone and establishing why they are dating and what they are hoping to find, as not everyone in the dating game these days is lookign for a long term relationship and I guess nothing much changes there. HOWEVER, it is important to remember that everything is a fantasy until you actually meet up with someone. Whilst someone may seem compatible in communications that can also be "fixed" too. For example, I've heard of conversations going like this
Him: What's your favourite meal?
Her: Roast Dinner
Him: Oh mine too
Him: What's your favourite TV Programme
Her: Any animal documentary
Him: Ooooh that's so my favourite too
These types of conversations make it look like the pair of you have bags of things in common and have found a "match"
People have also asked the other to stop dating other people and coming off of dating sites altogether before a meeting too, because they want that person to be committed to them. I have a lot of difficulty with people committing to each other before an actual meeting/date. In fact, I'd say, don't get too excited until you've met up 3 or 4 times. People end up feeeling quite hurt and disappointed when they finally do meet that person and they aren't what they thought they were, because they have gotten too carried away
From my own point of view and if it were me doing the online dating, I'd be chatting to lots of different people and going on lots of dates. A little bit like an interview process. Until you've actually met up and established that there is a genuine connection and you both want to commitment to each other from there, then it's all a fantasy and you are a free agent. Try to remember that this is a getting to know you process that has stages and phases just like everything else in life. Above all don't meet up with someone and spend a night in a hotel with them; just because you've been chatting for x amount of weeks/months doesn't mean they are genuine. Always meet in a public place and trust your gut feeling. If a situation doesn't feel right, chances are it isn't and then make your excuses to leave.
When I hear that my Clients have "fallen in love" with someone they've never met or have committed themselves to someone they've never met, my alarm bells ring immediately. I hope that things do work out for them and they don't get hurt. However, I know invariably they will be back, feeling rather sore and disappointed. When I've built up a rapport with someone this makes me feel very sad indeed.
May be you're dabbling with online dating right now, why not have a Psychic Reading to take a look at the person or people that you are chatting to, to see what their intentions are or in fact anything to look out for. Or may be you're ready to commit to someone and have developed feelings and you want to be sure they feel the same way about you too. Whichever it is a Psychic Reading can help you in your quest for "the one" A full range of services can be foundhere
It's got to be said, long term relationships can become mundane and you can loose that spark that once fuelled the passion and that feeling of being totally in love. It's true we do have to work at getting that back at times and sometimes we get caught up in the every day hum drum of life and we wonder where it's gone. Lets face it paying bills and doing the dishes isn't exactly romantic now is it.
May be this is how you are feeling right now? May be you're wondering if the spark will ever reignite for you or if it's been lost forever? May be there's a resason why you've lost the spark and you haven't been caught up in life, but rather you've had to work through something where you've had to have a lot of understanding and forgiveness?
Sometimes it doesn't take much, just a little extra effort or thought.. Here are some tips that can give you some ideas on how to get that spark back into relationship
If you are still struggling with your spark and you wonder if you can ever regain the passion that once was, why not book a Psychic Reading to see what lies ahead for you and whether this relationship really can go the distance. Click here for the full range of services on offer.
I think it is true about opposites attracting. I do feel that opposites really compliment each other. Each party can then bring something different to the partnership with each person displaying strengths and weaknesses that make up great couples.
I found an interesting article on Astrological Opposites and thought I'd share it.
What do you think? Do you think that people have to be the same type of person to be compatible or do you think that opposites really do compliment each other in a positive way?
I do feel that it adds to the dynamics of the partnership when both parties are different.
I found an article on How to Let go of Someone Who has Stopped Loving you the other day and I thought it may help someone out there.
Certainly I think this is something we all go through at certain points in our lives and we need to recognise the signs of when someone has stopped loving us or is not longer interested in us, so we stop putting in the effort to the one sided relationships and we focus on loving ourselves again until we find someone else worthy of our love
May you have been through this experience lately and have decided to move on from someone who wasn't giving back to you. Where do you really do from here? What does the future hold for you in terms of your love life? Is there anyone new coming in for you and when? Could a Psychic Reading give you a new focus, something to look forward to? Light at the end of the tunnel may be? If so, why not book a reading today to find out what or who is in store for you!
Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like
volcanoes and then subsides. And when it
subsides you have to make a
decision. You have to work out whether
your roots have so entwined
together that it is inconceivable that you
should ever part. Because this is what love is.
Love is not breathlessness, it is not
excitement, it is not the promulgation of
promises of eternal passion.
That is just being in love, which any fool
can do. Love itself is what is left over when
being in love has burned away, and this is
both an art and a fortunate accident.
Those that truly love have roots
that grow towards each other underground,
and, when all the pretty blossoms have fallen
from their branches, they find that they are one
tree and not two.
Louis de Bernieres
Captain Correlli's Mandolin